Recently I was asked if I was putting up a Christmas tree. Haha... good one. Hell no I'm not putting a tree up! I don't care if my son would get 20 minutes of holiday joy a day looking at the lights and decorations. Do you know how my entire day would be spent?"No, get away from the tree!"
"Don't touch the decorations, they are for looking not touching!"
"Please don't put the 'everything-you-can-touch' in your mouth!"
"Be Careful! You're going to pull the tree down!"
And all of this talk, every minute of every day, would be to a person who either doesn't understand what I am telling him, or doesn't give a fuck. I haven't quite figured out how smart he is yet.
I was also caught off guard the other day when someone asked what Santa was bringing my son for Christmas. I say caught off guard, because Santa is not bringing him anything for Christmas, and I didn't know what to tell her. My kid doesn't know who Santa is, so why would I bother? It's not like he is starving or desperate for anything at all. Whatever he needs, I buy him, and more. So is it really necessary to get him a gift, when he doesn't care?
I feel like I will invest more into this all when he does. Right now I'm focusing my energy on things that are actually important. Who knows though, maybe this whole Christmas thing has just become too overwhelming, and I'll always be shit at it.
So what do you think? Am I a lazy Grinch mom, or does it make sense to not do much for a 1 year old for Christmas? Let me know, I can handle it.
Genevieve
We're the exact same. We didn't even go for a Santa photo. Maybe next year when he's old enough to get excited!
ReplyDeleteI hope they are excited next year!
DeleteWe did the tree and the decorating, and he will get presents from Santa (but he was with us when 'Santa' bought them and then hid them in the basement). He wakes up saying "tree tree" and will point at Santa and say 'Ho Ho Ho'. Does he 'get it'? Doubt it. But I needed to make the effort, as I didn't want two scrooge-y Christmas' in a row. PS - for the most part, he leaves the tree and ornaments alone :)
ReplyDeleteI think that is awesome. I saw your tree and Alex looked so into it. I think Eli would be all over it. When we are at my parents house he's constantly pulling ornaments off their tree. He's a bit older than Eli too, so maybe that makes a difference.
DeleteMaybe being a few months older makes a difference in his understanding of "Don't touch". He still tries, but we are pretty quick to correct. I think he learned most of the Don't Touch at Daycare where they've had a tree up much longer than we did. Next year, you're place will look like a Christmas Wonderland!!
DeleteBut Christmas is so much fun!!!
ReplyDeleteI feel like it is just busy and stressful this year. I'm sure I'll enjoy the actual day, but otherwise, meh.
DeleteI'm not a mom (yet) but I agree with your theory 100% and don't spoil someone who doesn't understand and treat him once he's older. A tree on the other hand is a must for me!!
ReplyDeleteI think my friend does Christmas really well with her family, they get: something to wear, something to read, something you want and something you need! Merry Christmas!
That is a great idea for gifts!
DeleteI totally agree! we didn't fuss over getting photos with Santa this year even though it was our baby's first Christmas. I'm hoping to not make a big deal next year too.
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